The 30-Something Girl’s Guide To Going Out

What does ‘going out’ in your 30’s really look like?

First of all, let’s get one thing straight…going out past the age of 30 involves work.  You need a plan…several group text messages and most likely a few phone calls (yeah…they still exist).

The days of a last minute ‘wanna grab a drink?’ are gone…you have a full calendar…always. And the only way to get that ‘night out’ in is to work for it – make it happen.  And rally your tribe to join you.

My closest girlfriends are moms and we crave that ‘girl time’ – we are talking about serious soul food here.  And a glass of wine over dinner just doesn’t always cut it – so we try to escape for an overnight retreat when possible (which is at least a few times a year).  The easiest way to get that quick respite from the day-to-day is a staycation in the city.  We had the opportunity of staying at Motif Seattle last weekend, so I thought I would share the difference between going out in your 30’s vs. 20’s and hopefully inspire you to make a date with your squad.

A ‘girl’s night out’ in your 30’s does not start at 11pm…it begins with dinner, drinks & conversation.

We checked in at 3pm – because we were not about to miss one minute of that golden kid-free time.

Motif Seattle, a Destination Hotel, is a distinctly different yet uniquely Seattle hotel experience, highlighted by vibrant service and inviting spaces that are individually crafted.  Inspired by four pillars: music, art/design, culinary, and fashion, Motif Seattle weaves the culture of Seattle throughout the brand and touchpoint. – Motif Seatle

My 30’s have brought a sincere appreciation for experiences.  When I have an opportunity to escape, even for just one night, I value the little luxuries – the comfort, the amenities, the details.

When the tribe finally gets a night out – we like to really enjoy ourselves.

So pour the champagne and let’s talk, laugh and revel in all that is good in our lives.  #ThisIs30

An important rule for your girls night – get pampered.

Treat yo’ self.  This is the time to indulge – to dust off and refresh.  We headed to Julep (next door to Motif) for Manicures + a Stella Artois (they offer complimentary tea + water and drinks for purchase)…

…and a bit of shopping.

Another important rule for girls night – soak up every moment together.

Create downtime and savor those minutes with your tribe – these are the women that keep you sane, they understand you, they relate – they are your breath of fresh air.

And, take photos!  Not just for Snapchat or Instagram – but photos that will be framed for years to come.  These are the days we want to remember – cherish them.

To treat my girlfriend’s I brought in Polished (you can see THIS post for more info!) and they provided a fresh blowout for everyone.

Next stop – dinner & drinks.

We headed to Frolik Kitchen + Cocktails, which is located on the 5th floor of Motif.  It has one of Seattle’s most renowned outdoor rooftop bars and the perfect Northwest-Inspired menu.

Since Frolik is in the hotel – we headed back to the room for a quick touch up + last minute photos before we put the phones/camera away for the night!  Important rule – make sure to unplug at some point and just enjoy (I advise before the cocktails kick in and you start flooding your instagram feed) :)

At this point – we then went and danced our faces off.  I highly recommend this.  Even better if you can find a spot playing 90’s r&b. :)

The next morning we continued our mini holiday with room service – it’s the little things, my friends.

Last rule – use every ounce of that beautiful free time.

Grab a coffee, walk the city, shop, and when in Seattle – make sure to grab a Pike Place Market bouquet before heading home…

And remember – you deserve this.

You owe it to yourself to take a break, reconnect and just fly a bit.  You will return home with a renewed sense of gratitude, kindness and patience.  #ThisIs30

Thanks to Motif Seattle, Frolik Kitchen + Cocktails & Julep for hosting us.  They were incredibly gracious and superbly attentive.  I hope you consider them for your next girls night out – which you should be planning right about…now.

XoXo Portia

Disclosure:  We received a complimentary night + services in exchange for this post.  The opinions expressed here represent my own, which I take great pride in providing pure honesty…because I’m OBSESSED with sharing the Good!